BONDAGE FETISH
Bondage is generally understood as the typing, binding and restraining of a sexual partner for a variety of reasons, often using forms of rope, handcuffs or tape. Bondage is typically associated with BDSM (with the ‘B’ itself standing for the word ‘bondage’ both technically and within chats) but many couples or individuals utilize bondage within their vanilla relationships without any of the further discipline and other activities associated with the scene. Bondage is typically used within sexual intercourse for the aid of sex, but over the years it has also become popular as a form of art to be photographed in alternative spaces for its interesting aesthetic.
Bondage is one of the more widely represented, understood and recognized forms of BDSM, as its wide definition often acts as a less intimidating and intense sexual act when compared to many of the others that fall into the BDSM umbrella. While some of the more intense sexual acts and kinks are enjoyed by those typically deep within the scene, the act of bondage has been normalized in the general media through the kinky use of handcuffs, often made pink and fluffy in popular films. Such handcuffs are often brought as joke gifts for bachelorettes or within gift sets for couples, enjoyed as a fun way to spice up a couple’s sex life. This often rather distances itself from the more extreme acts and means of bondage, such as rope, tape and pieces of furniture such as coffins or wooden stocks. Instead, it is understood as a fun sex game, often utilized to help fulfil sexual fantasies shared in chats or to act as foreplay before the act of penetration. The trust involved with bondage, even when utilizing jokey pink fluffy handcuffs, is often the main reason why bondage is enjoyed by so many, including those outside and rather uneducated to the BDSM scene. When couples trust each other with their bodies and find themselves unable to move or physically stop their sexual partner, the foreplay is often more exciting and the relationship itself is more affirmed over time.
DISCIPLINE
While, as previously mentioned, bondage can often be described as a sex act within itself, it is also often utilized as a training tool for discipline within D/S relationships. A dominant in a D/S relationship will hold power and control over their submissive, but it often takes certain levels of training through verbal chats and physicality to be able to make their submissive act appropriately and within the rules that are set for them. This is why certain forms of punishments and tools of discipline are often used throughout in order to bring the couple closer and teach important lessons. Some lessons are built on the foundation of humiliation, while others are built instead on physical pain or even emotional discomfort. The utilization of bondage as a form of discipline is wildly popular as it allows for the submissive to be physically restrained, often gagged or blindfolded at the same time, while also allowing the dominant the chance to perhaps perform erotic tickling, spanking, or even acts upon them that are enjoyable (such as oral sex) while refusing orgasm. The binding of the submissive strengthens the D/S form of their relationship while making discipline easier for the dominant to utilize. And never forget to tend to your partners needs with proper aftercare.
WAYS TO BE BOUND
Bondage is often enjoyed so popularly due to how versatile the different means of utilizing it is. As already mentioned, handcuffs can be utilized, but so can rope, being tied onto bed frames, spreader bars and, as is often the case, can be utilized with household items that aren’t inherently sexual before being brought into the bedroom. Often, bondage involves tying someone to something to avoid them moving away, but it can also be enjoyed by spreading the limbs of someone, providing their partner easy access for penetration or other forms of sex, such as oral. One of the less commonly used forms of bondage, and one mostly enjoyed by those deeper within the scene who have the correct equipment, is the act of suspending sexual partners from the ceiling using special harnesses and hooks. This restricts any form of typical movement and leaves the sexual partner entirely at the behest of their partner.
The vast ranging means of providing bondage as discussed makes it one of the more popular forms of BDSM. From fluffy pink handcuffs to expertly tied knots and ceiling suspension, it is an act that can be enjoyed by anyone on any level, and often incites further enjoyment for penetrative sex, oral sex, fingering, vibration play or even erotic tickling.
There are a vast number of types of bondage, they range from decorative to torturous and verry just as much in material. The most common types are rope, metal, leather and latex. You can find greater detail about bondage specifics on Wikipedia’s Bondage page
WHY DO PEOPLE LIKE B&D?
The main source of enjoyment from bondage is the fact that it leaves the restrained person utterly at the whim of their sexual partner. Ultimately, they become unable to engage in the sex acts themselves and are left to be played with however their partner desires. For those who are more submissive (typically the person being bound), this allows for a lack of decision making and instead reverts all power back to the person making decision for them. The power play thus become very important, and the lack of control and therefore sense of freedom becomes an erotic element too, as much as any of the physical acts that are brought unto them. While many enjoy bondage for this very act of not having control, many also enjoy the act of struggling against their bonds physically and through spoilt chats, such as brats within a D/S relationship, for example. A brat may enjoy struggling against their bonds to playfully fight against their dominant partner, or even for masochistic purposes too if the struggling begins to hurt or feel uncomfortable.
For the more dominant figure within the act, typically the person who has bound the other and remains in control of the situation, pleasure comes not only from seeing someone entirely trust them and surrender their body to them, but also the very act of being dominant in the situation and having power over their submissive. Masochists gain pleasure from inflicting pain, if you know someone like this check out our blog: 6 Types of Sex Toys for a Masochist. For many people, bondage is just a means of enjoying other sex acts, a way to have power and to enjoy different means of enjoying penetrative sex, sex toys or fingering, but for others bondage acts as the main attraction itself.
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BONDAGE & DISCIPLINE PORN
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