BBW FETISH
The term “BBW” literally means “big beautiful women”, a clear and decisive definition for what this fetish encompasses. The euphemism typically describes a fetish commonly held in heterosexual relationships from a skinny or normally figured man who is sexually attracted to overweight women, often sexually attracted to and fetishizing their weight. While the fetish exists in real-life relationships, it is also prevalent online and in internet communities, where many chat sites and forums are dedicated to connecting men with the larger women of their dreams.
Many fat women love and appreciate the term, finding it empowering and flattering. Often after experiencing discrimination and bullying throughout their lives related to their weight, being beautified by men of a more typical weight on forums and in real life is an excellent compliment for them. However, that cannot be said for everyone, and many women find the fetishizing offensive and alarming. It can be noted that the term often alludes to the sexualization and objectification of women, leading fat women to be once again seen as anything other than usual, complex human women. Don’t forget to visit our BBW Message Board.
WHY DO PEOPLE LIKE IT
The BBW fetish attracts people for a range of different reasons. Some men find fat women attractive simply because they like the look of fuller-figured women. Men commonly appreciate the ability of overweight women to provide the level of cuddles they desire, being soft to the touch and physically hugging and holding them to the degree that someone with a more petite frame would not be able to do. My Love Affair With BBW details one person’s journey. Describes one man’s journey. Some men find fat women attractive simply because they like the look of fuller-figured women. It is common for men to appreciate the ability of fat women to provide the level of cuddles they desire, being soft to the touch and physically hugging and holding them to the degree that someone with a more petite frame would not be able to do.
It has also been extensively understood through history that the larger a woman is in terms of the wider her hips and the more voluptuous her curves and breasts, the better prepared she will be for the physical condition of pregnancy and mothering. This can be seen widely in Renaissance art, such as Titian’s Woman in a Mirror, portraying the voluptuous, overweight female body as an object of attraction and desire at the time. Therefore, the sexual attraction to these curves can also link to the fetish of breeding and pregnancy, or even in more simple and romantic terms, provides men with the comfort of planning long into their future with their partner.
In the UK, Channel 4 has released a documentary titled “My Big Fat Fetish.” Within the show, a self-titled BBW called Reenaya Starr was interviewed and was reported as saying:
“There are so many different kinds of ‘fat admirers.’ Some men are not interested in squashing at all. Some men are just into big ladies looking cute. And then there are some into hardcore pornography who want to see big ladies having sex. So it all depends on what your sub-fetish is—but to these men, being with a big woman in any capacity is their ultimate desire. [My] subscribers come from all over the world. But there is a huge following in the UK…Other than my husband, I have two feeders who send me money for food online. They don’t physically feed me as they’re too far away, but one is now based in the US, so he does come in for squashings.” – https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-excess/201506/the-fat-fetish-explained
GAINING
Another element of BBW fetishes can also become tied to gaining or, as it is often more colloquially known online, “feederism.” This exists as the act of one party in a relationship, typically a skinny man, to encourage and assist an overweight woman’s feeding and gaining weight. The goal is for the larger-bodied person, in the case of BBW, to be the woman, to gain weight, often to their detriment due to physical and psychological health issues. Of course, the larger a woman gets, the more she can provide the previously mentioned acts of squashing, gut flopping, etc. The psychological enjoyment and fantasy of the man who encourages the feeding is a fetish within itself, as well as a form of lifestyle and culture despite its often-taboo nature. Feederism is typically found within a loving, nurturing, and consensual relationship in real life and via chats, despite any negative taboos in the media.
SQUASHING, GUT FLOPPING & SUFFOCATION
Fat women are often the token of attraction for reasons beyond their appearance, but what their appearance can provide their admirers. There is a vast range of activities often provided by a fat woman to a skinny man that includes but isn’t limited to squashing, gut flopping, and suffocation, all of which are often the source of chat-based BBW relationships. Urban Dictionary describes gut flopping as when “a large-bellied individual raises his or her stomach and allows it to drop upon his or her sexual partner in a way that creates a smacking sound [and] is an act performed for sexual pleasure.” – https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=gut%20flopping This sexual act is often a source of great popularity among men with the BBW fetish, and they often chat to fat women online not just to start genuine romantic relationships with them, but instead to utilize their services in gut flopping as well as squashing and suffocation. In these acts, women would likely sit on the men, jump on them and make it difficult for them to breathe with their body weight for the male enjoyment, but often their own too.
This relationship exists in the physical and emotional (such as on chats). It holds excellent connotations of BDSM, particularly with the submissive/dominant elements of the acts. For example, the man being jumped on, squashed or suffocated would act as a submissive emotionally and physically when comparing their stature. As part of the experience, it is also understood that autoerotic asphyxiation is involved too, which is also a common element of BDSM relations. An anonymous writer who has written online about their view and experience of BBW squashing has written that “ to find sexual pleasure, one must feel pain from lack of oxygen, beating, among others,” thereby writing first-hand about the connection between BBW fetishes and BDSM.
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