A “cuckold” is the name for a husband or male romantic partner who allows a third party into his marriage to sexually please his wife instead of him. However, within biology it has come to mean a male who unwittingly invests himself into bringing up children that are not his own. The term itself comes from the bird “cuckoo”, which often kicks eggs from other birds out of their nests and replace them with their own, allowing other birds to do all the work to bring up a baby bird they don’t realize isn’t their own. The term itself goes back to medieval times, but has recently been shortened to the term “cuck”. Today the the term cuck can be used descriptively within the community or as an insult. Urban Dictionary defines “Cuck” as “A man who lets his wife or girlfriend have sex with other men. Often the man lets her do whatever she wants and treat him like shit.”
In terms of cuckold fetishes, the man who is allowing their wife to be sexual with someone else often secretly enjoys the knowledge that his partner is sexually active on him with someone else (or at least is aware that the act is happening). Typically, this comes from a desire to feel humiliated and submissive within their own relationship but can always come from a level of masochism too – the desire to inflict pain and discomfort upon themselves. While it may seem more obvious for the partner who would be sexually active with others to bring up the fantasy, as they are the one understood to gain the most enjoyment from the arrangement, the fantasy typically lies directly in the mind of the person being cuckolded, and they are understood to typically be the ones to suggest bringing the fantasy into fruition in desire of humiliation. If cuckolding is something that interests you, you should read Cuckolding: A Beginner’s Guide.
WHY DO PEOPLE ENJOY CUCKOLDING?
Cuckolding exists as a subtype of masochism, and therefore for all the reasons that people enjoy discomfort and pain upon themselves, a cuckold may enjoy too. It may also be that a cuck enjoys the eroticization of feeling like a failure, and the bringing to life fantasies of not being enough and being humiliated as a result. There is also a link to the biology of humans and their relationships that directly explains the reasons why a cuckold enjoys their humiliation fantasy of having their partner sleep with someone else. Cuckolding is a term that has been used within the public sphere ever since medieval times, if not before, and references can be found within Shakespeare’s plays too. This shows that it isn’t an underground term used only on chat forums at all but instead is generally understood. For many people, knowing that their partner is desired by other people is a turn on within itself, but the desire to beat their adversaries’ sperm when it came to impregnating their partner is often of great importance to a cuck too. This is where the “hot wife” trope often comes into play, though this is only slightly related to cuckoldom, as this infers a pride rather than sense of humiliation, which cuckoldry is entirely based around.
In more modern times, there are a variety of ways that a cuckold can enjoy the humiliation of having their partner be sexually active with other people. Some who may not feel comfortable with having their partner sleep with others, or if the partner themselves doesn’t wish to cheat, may instead enjoy hearing about their partner’s past sexual encounters, particularly those of great merit – potentially relating to a man having a bigger penis than them, being more attractive or rich than them, or beating them in some way when it comes to attractiveness and prowess. Some cucks may even send their partner off for the night, allowing them a night of freedom for them to sleep with or become sexual with whoever they want. When their partner then returns home, they can enjoy hearing in detail everything their partner got up to, getting off on the story and the humiliation and isolation it brings upon themselves as a result.
Polyamorous couples often describe on cuckold message boards a warm, fuzzy feeling they experience at seeing their partner be happy and sexual with other partners, a word that has come to be called “compersion.” While some may think that this would be a similar experience for a cuckold, it’s important to remember that compersion invokes emotions in a way that being a cuckold simply doesn’t. Being a cuckold is more rooted in humiliation, particularly sexual humiliation and a lack of dignity.
HOW IT CAN GO WRONG
While cuckolding can often be a fetish enjoyed respectfully between consenting adults, sometimes the idea can slip into offensive assumptions. Often, it utilizes the notion of “ownership” of one woman by a man in order to bring the greatest humiliation onto the cuckold. This can often be translated into controlling and toxic behavior, as the humiliation often trespasses past just the lines of embarrassment by being cheated on into a belief that having an adulterous partner damages the very soul or respectability of a man. An example of this could be the simple framing of “my woman” as used by a cuckold. This has only been inflated by the right-wing co-opting of the term “cuck” on online chat forums to mean a beta male, someone who isn’t powerful enough to control their woman. These very ideas of possession, ownership and control are offensive and dangerous in of themselves.
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